Parent's Guide To Good Friday Communion

Dear Parents,

I pray that this Holy Week has been a blessed one for you and your family, filled with wonderful reminders of the gift of salvation God has provided us through the life, death, and resurrection of His Son Jesus Christ. As we pass through the midway point of this Holy Week, I wanted to offer you some encouragements and ways to help prepare you and children’s hearts for the upcoming Good Friday service. 

Our Good Friday service will be unique for families in that all children over the age of two will attend the service with their parents. It will also be unique in the way in which we will focus our hearts on the Lord’s Supper and participate it in together. During this part of the service, you may be challenged by how to best include your children in the service, and whether it would be appropriate for them to partake of the elements. The pastoral team asked that I offer some thoughts on how to help parents prayerfully think through these questions, and how to best prepare their children for our Good Friday service. 

I’ve listed out my thoughts below in a question/answer format to help address the common questions I hear parents ask. I pray this serves you and your children well, and points your family to the wonderful Gospel of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Are Children Allowed to Partake in the Lord’s Supper at Four Oaks?

The short answer to this question is yes. At Four Oaks Church, all our communion services are open to all present, including children, who are trusting in Jesus Christ alone for the forgiveness of their sins and His promise of eternal life to all who believe. As for a child’s readiness for communion, we defer to the parents’ discernment as to whether their child is truly ready to participate in communion.

How Do I Know if My Child is Ready to Participate in the Lord’s Supper?

There is not a simple “one size fits all” answer to this question that can be applied to every child in the same way. Each child is different and the way and how the Lord works in their lives is unique according His good and perfect will. There are however, three questions for you to prayerfully consider and interact with your child over when considering their readiness for communion:

  1. Is my child able to give a credible profession of faith in Jesus Christ?
  2. Does my child’s life exhibit a consistent pattern (NOT A PERFECT PATTERN!) of consciously pursuing the Lord in obedience?
  3. Does my child truly understand the purpose and significance of partaking in the Lord’s Supper?

None of this is meant to be used as a checklist, but as a guide to help you interact with your child and as a means to help discern where your child is spiritually. Remember it is you who knows your child the best, so pursue their hearts in the light of the Gospel and celebrate with them this week the wonderful news that Christ Has Risen!

Grace and Peace, 

Rob Pifer, Director of Students and Families